28 year old woman dating 22 year old man
Who knows what I'll want to do for the rest of my life, right?Well, here's the difference between me and most of the guys I dated: I'm actively pursuing something anyway, successfully.If they gave me an hour-long back massage to prove that he loved me, then I guess we were going to have sex.If he cooked me dinner on the third date, well, I'm sort of leading him on if I don't try to like him, right?But after yet another terminated relationship where a lack of ambition was at the core of our issues, I realized something: It's not that I need a guy to be rich — I just need him to be about something, actively. Because I really, really wanted the guys I was with to be Men and not Boys, I would frequently make myself smaller in relationships to compensate for the ways they didn't have their sh*t together.One of the main ways that played out was baby talk. But by assuming the tone of a younger girl who needed to be taken care of when I was feeling needy or I wanted attention, I was often able to trick myself into feeling like the guys I was with were more dominant or protective than they actually felt to me otherwise.Sure, I'm not always 100 percent sure what that something is, but I have ambition and drive to figure it out.
It made sense — in some ways, I'm still figuring it out myself.I'm acting more like a grown woman, because I am one — and I want to be his equal. ) that you can always tell when a friend is really in love because you don't hear much from them about it.Sure, that has many exceptions, (hello, abusive relationships) but by and large, I've realized that the happier I am, the less I feel the need to tell lots of people about my relationship in the same detail, because I don't have as much to prove.That said, from talking with my friends, I know there are some common lessons we all seem to be learning about dating, relationships, and love in this decade.All of us are different, but the potential learning curve is equally steep for most of us.