Dating a shy boy
It’s hard enough trying to figure out what any guy is thinking, but it’s even more difficult to read a shy guy.
When you fall for a shy campus cutie, it may not seem easy to figure out if he likes you back.
Some guys are just inherently shy, says Geoffrey Greif, a professor at the University of Maryland School of Social Work and author of .
He adds that young women need to “understand that some shyness is embedded in the guy... certain situations or groups.” No matter the reason behind your guy’s shyness, our love experts can help you figure out how to make him yours!
How to Get His Attention Greif, Jasbina Ahluwalia, founder and CEO of successful matchmaking service Intersections Match, and psychotherapist Mary Waldon all agree that the number one tip for trying to date a shy guy is to take initiative!
“Don't worry if you continue to be more [talkative] than him as you develop your relationship,” she says.You probably shouldn’t quiz him on his opinion of the meaning of life, but asking about his favorite sports team can be a great opener.How to Ask Him Out If you’re already friends with the shy guy you like, Greif tells collegiettes that while you should be comfortable with initiating a date, you shouldn’t rush things.She assures collegiettes: “Many men are more comfortable side-to-side with another person than facing the other person directly,” she says.Greif adds that while women like face-to-face activities, “men hang out with their friends through shoulder-to-shoulder activities.” If you show interest from afar but your guy is still too shy to approach you, then the next step is to go up and talk to him!