Dating an older married man with kids
There are actually two things to consider here – his children, and your potential children. As a man gets older, it becomes increasingly likely that he will have fathered some children along the way.
These children will take up his time, whether they live with him or he spends his weekends with them.
You will probably need to be prepared to be lower on his list of priorities sometimes, even if his children are grown up. If he doesn’t, are you prepared to sacrifice your desire for children to find love?
You might be fine with this, but it’s important to consider carefully. The last thing you should do is enter the relationship thinking ‘I’ll change his mind’ – you most probably won’t and it’s a huge gamble.
That’s not to say they will completely lack a youthful mindset: a study by Nickelodeon UK found that men remain ‘immature’ well into their early 40s, while women mature at an average age of 32 We use cultural references to express who we are and where we’ve come from.
We’re not saying older men will be completely inflexible but you shouldn’t think you can change their ways once you’re in a relationship.You’ll definitely need to accept this man’s ex-wife, but that’s as much as you need to do.There’s no point in digging up dirt about her or stalking her on Facebook.Yes, we all know some lazy men our own age, but older men might need to go to bed earlier than you, and they’re probably not going to find late-night house parties very appealing.Then again, you might not either, so you might be perfect for each other.