Dating as a young widow
I was lonely for several years before my husband died.
I would have been dating again within a year if I had not been in a car accident that put me out of action for nine months.
No one else can tell you what you are feeling, so only by being in touch with your own emotions can you know if you’re ready.
Everyone mourns differently, so widows/widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the speed of their recovery.” Tink333: “This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women.
Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run its course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.
It is natural to want a partner, but the partner is not a substitute.” Jedi Soth: “One should wait until they feel they are ready.
If you search for ‘widow dating’ or ‘widower dating’—you’ll find a plethora of stories and solutions to ‘getting back out there again.’ While it means well—and is likely, solid information—sometimes, the most important person to ask is, well, yourself.
That’s because each person and situation is unique.
The best way to approach this situation with understanding and care is to take a page out of the personal experiences of widows and widowers who explain what they valued at the time: Jedi Soth: “Offer understanding and a willingness to listen and (if necessary) distance for the widow/widower to cope with unresolved issues on their own terms if they choose to go it alone.” Sparkles56: “The best advice I have here is to ask the widowed person, ‘How can I be there for you?
’ Realize that at some points the widowed person might need space, and don’t take that personally.
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If the photos can’t come down, or the reminiscing is constant and weepy, more time is needed.