Dating two guys at the same time
It's the best way to make the worst decision of your life, and your brain is wired to do it. And it's directly associated with almost every form of clinical addiction in humans.Have you ever been on a date and found that you can remember every tiny detail (like how he held your hand, or what he said) but still not be able to recall what you had for dinner yesterday? Studies have shown your dopamine levels skyrocket when you first fall for someone, even after just one date.Growing your social skills while you're single is a gift. When you multi-date, you naturally have less time for one man. You'll challenge him, without trying, in a way that is natural and works. Tell him, “I'm in a 'dating only' mindset, right now.Don't sacrifice this gift for a man until he's earned it. He'll have to earn his way up your priorities list, challenging him in a way he's not used to. I've told myself I would really get to know someone before I commit, so I'm holding myself to that for now.One of the most controversial ideas I teach in dating is to go on multiple dates, with multiple guys, before you become exclusive with anyone.It's a controversial idea, but it's also one of the most successful.When you date multiple people, you're just leveling the playing field. It's simply having the self-respect to say what's good for him is, and always will be, good for you.There's no reason you should be willing to give up the obvious benefits of multiple dating until you know him well enough to make an informed decision.“To find a prince, you're going to have to kiss a few toads.”It's simple math.
Certain men, especially players or overly possessive types, cannot handle a woman multiple dating.
Not only does your challenge (and therefore your attractiveness, in his eyes) decrease, you're putting yourself in a position to be more vulnerable to the dopamine swings than he is.
It's an uneven playing field, and one on which you're likely to lose.
You might find that, once you deal with it, you're not such a fan.
There may be other traits you thought you would hate, but which, to your surprise, you learn you quite like.